There two major problems in India that we are not paying enough attention. The regressive customs are hurting not only India’s progress but also, it’s society. The society is changing where more youth are moving to cities with their spouse and children to find jobs, leaving their parents behind. That leads to a huge population of deserted old parents in India.
Below are the two problems highlighted by two prominent publications –
- India witnesses one of the highest female infanticide incidents in the world: study. In a first-ever global study on female infanticide by Asian Centre for Human Rights, a Delhi-based NGO dedicated to the protection of human rights, it has been revealed that preference of son over daughter is a major reason for female infanticide in many countries around the world. Dowry system in South Asia, which makes daughters “an unaffordable economic burden”, also contributes to female infanticide. DTE
- Why India’s youth are abandoning their elderly parents? Gulf News
Just make this change – Make ‘daughters’, the primary care-taker of the ageing parents.
- There will be a dip in female infanticide. The girl child will be seen as an asset compared to liability in the current situation.
- Ageing parents can be nagging and difficult to manage. One really needs to love them to endure their difficult behaviour. As a girl child, I would fight, argue, rebuke, hate but at the end of the day, love my parents. I sense my parents need even before they speak. It takes years to have a similar connection with In-laws.
- Girls are able to understand their parents’ lot better. They understand their joys, sorrows, pain, need and want. They are sensitive to their need. But it is hard to do the same for in-laws. Family equations are strained because boys are stuck between mother and wife.
- The age-old Saas-Bahu fight would end. The unnecessary tussle of the ownership over ‘the man’ would end. Boys will not be the primary caretaker. The dependency on them is reduced. The sense of security would come from the girls. When the parents are insecure and dependent, that’s when they see their “bahu” as a competitor for the mind-space.
- The birth of the girl will be celebrated the same as the boy child. The pressure on the boys to exceed will come down. The pride that comes with son’s success would be shared. Why do girls back out when they have to share the responsibility?
- The unnecessary tradition of leaving dad’s house to go to in-law’s house has to end. No one is living with their in-laws. Most of the newlywed couples live in their own tiny apartments then what is the point of using the reference that girls have to quit their parents’ house. And therefore they cannot take care of them.
- Parents will start taking care of their girl child education. They would want the girls to work and earn so that she can take care of them later on. Right now, they are a burden. What do parents get when they educate their girl child? She has to leave one day to take care of her ‘own’ house. That thought has to end.
- Property sharing would be equal. As of now, it is possible just by legal means but not many are practising it. Boys are assumed to be taking care of parents. They are doing a poor job. Ultimately, they depend on their wives to do the job who may not share the same feelings for his parents. When girls are taking care of parents that’s when they truly become eligible for property rights.
- Women will be more independent mentally, financially and socially. In the present situation, first, they depend on parents for their survival and then on husbands. The responsibility to take care of the parents will propel them to have their own careers. Now when girls get married, at times, in-laws force them to quit their jobs.
- There will be more equality among men and women. The undue pressure on men would come down. There will be celebrations at the advent of the girl child too.
I am sure there are many more benefits of girls taking this ownership. There is a huge growth prospect of this idea that will ultimately improve the condition of women and also a relief to deserted old parents.